Resolution #4: Dare To Love

December 15, 2009 was the 1st day of the Love Dare marriage class and my husband and I both started with such excitement.  We had our books in hand, each other holding hands, and ready to start 2010 challenging our 16 year old relationship. I had read the book before and liked it a lot except that I left it half way.  The daily love dares are not difficult at all but they do require deep thinking about where one is, where one is going, and why we do what we do.

I did so good in the first couple of daily dares but soon realized that this time around, I was not going to be able to just do day 1 once, but it is a cummulative practice.  Day 3 has its own dare but you must also continue doing day 1 and day 2 and so on.

The point is that LOVE is not an emotion but a daily decision, it is having a heart of servanthood for your spouse.  Its not treating him/her how you would like to be treated.  Huh?  Isn’t is the golden rule?  No.  It’s the silver rule (as one of my professors explained once).  The golden rule states that we should treat others as we would like to be treated.  That’s easy to do! You know yourself and know the “tricks of the trade” to make you feel happy.  The silver rule states that you should treat others the way they would like to be treated. aha!  That’s the focus of love.  So, I like to receive written love notes, and he likes to get a massage.  I should write him a love note about a massage to show him how much I love him? Nah, just give him the massage!  In 2010 dare to love beyond yourself!

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